The most stressful thing you can do to a hard drive is spin it up.
So if you have aggressive power management enabled on the drive, and it is spinning up and down constantly in response to requests, it may fail prematurely.
Otherwise, the platter is always spinning while a disk is on.
Modern drive heads (not the platter) are controlled by a voice-coil, e.g. magnetism moves them. So there is not a lot of friction in play. While anything mechanical can fail, the actual drive head failing by means other than stiction (which generally occurs as a manufacturing defect that often happens soon after the drive is first used) is incredibly rare.
The amount of reads/writes you do to a spinning disk will really not affect its lifetime as long as Windows isn't spinning down the disk and making it spin back up constantly.